Single Company

I have recently found myself contemplating the possibility that God is preparing to move us very far away. It sounds very fun and exciting to me but I know that deep down this is not necessarily the case. If God moves us, wonderful! If He doesn’t, great! I thought about it and if I am honest it is actually jealousy that is making me feel this way. I have been “torturing” myself by reading the blogs of many of my friends. Everyday it seems they meet with friends and have parties or hang out and they seem very connected. Meanwhile I feel forgotten and even sometimes hurt when I see pictures of them out there having fun and knowing all the while that I was never invited. That’s fine, I think to myself. But really, I feel sad, mad even, honestly jealous. I don’t have to be the center of attention but a little side note would be nice – even an afterthought, anything, come on, throw me a bone! It would be easy to say that it is probably because I got married. For some reason married couples seem to fall off the radar – especially newly married couples. While it is important to have personal time with each other and it is wonderful to be with my husband, sometimes we feel neglected by the people we once felt so close to. Before I got married I had a friend call me out for coffee and we had a heart to heart about this very thing. She was worried that after I got married I would disappear. The strange thing is that now that I am married I rarely if ever get a call from this friend. In the meantime, I hear about the get-togethers and fun stuff that is going on that this friend is a part of or even instigates – all unbeknownst to me until I happen to find out about it later. I cannot be mad at my friend. I love her! And I am just as much to blame because I have not called her in a long time. I think that at this point I imagine that I am a faint dot on the long-range sonar. If I did call her, would she want to be a part of my life again? If she did call me, would I be too busy for her? Would we still be able to find something in common to base our friendship on? I am sure I am not the first newlywed to encounter this syndrome. I am sure I will not be the last. I would hate to think that just because we are married now we are not allowed to have single friends – or that our single friends are not allowed to spend time with us now that we are married.

Trust me, my single friends, the following is very true:
Married life is awesome! While we value our time alone together, we can and do want to make time to spend with our friends. We have plenty of time together – we live together for heaven’s sake! You would not be imposing on us. We know how to say no if needed.
Please don’t get mad, don’t feel sorry and don’t feel bad and– just get connected, if you would like, free from any foxes that may spoil the vine of our friendship.